Anti Bullying
Bully is physical or mental violence in which one or more people attack or intimidate another person. This violent behavior is common in school environments and generally affects children and adolescents who are physically weaker than their peers.
Bullying does not only occur when the perpetrator physically abuses the victim, such as hitting, slapping, or kicking. Bullying can also be carried out without using physical violence, such as taunting, calling someone slanderous, or it can also spread gossip about the victim or humiliate him in front of many people.
In today's technology era, bullying is getting easier. The perpetrator only needs to use social media to bring down the victim, such as distributing negative themed texts, photos or videos about the victim.
People who bully are usually physically strong. It is likely that he grew up in a violent family or environment.
In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:
- An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.
- Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.
Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.
Types of Bullying
There are three types of bullying:
- Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:
- Teasing
- Name-calling
- Inappropriate sexual comments
- Taunting
- Threatening to cause harm
- Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes:
- Leaving someone out on purpose
- Telling other children not to be friends with someone
- Spreading rumors about someone
- Embarrassing someone in public
- Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes:
- Hitting/kicking/pinching
- Spitting
- Tripping/pushing
- Taking or breaking someone’s things
- Making mean or rude hand gestures
Where and When Bullying Happens
Bullying can occur during or after school hours. While most reported bullying happens in the school building, a significant percentage also happens in places like on the playground or the bus. It can also happen travelling to or from school, in the youth’s neighborhood, or on the Internet.
Frequency of Bullying
There are two sources of federally collected data on youth bullying:
- The 2017 School Crime Supplement to the National Crime Victimization Survey (National Center for Education Statistics and Bureau of Justice) indicates that, nationwide, about 20% of students ages 12-18 experienced bullying.
- The 2019 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) indicates that, nationwide, 19.5% of students in grades 9–12 report being bullied on school property in the 12 months preceding the survey.
WHAT ARE THE NEGATIVE EFFECTS?
It is possible that those who are being bullied will experience impacts such as:
- Mental health problems, such as depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, difficulty sleeping well, wanting to hurt yourself, or even suicidal thoughts.
- Become a drug user.
- Decreased academic performance. This effect may occur because the victim is afraid to go to school so that it has an impact on their learning activities.
- Joined violence. The bullied person is likely to retaliate or try to abuse himself.
While the negative effects that may be experienced by bullies include:
- Discharged from school.
- Become a drug user.
- Threatened with a criminal sentence for committing violence.
HOW DO I STOP THIS ACTION?
The child who is being bullied may be afraid to tell other people. He might also turn quiet. Therefore, as parents, you must be observant to see changes in their behavior. The following are the characteristics of children who are victims of bullying.
- What used to be enthusiastic, now he refuses to go to school.
- His learning achievement has decreased.
- Suddenly losing friends or avoiding friend requests.
- His belongings disappeared or were destroyed.
- Experiencing changes in appetite.
- Experiencing sleep disturbances.
- Ran away from home.
- Looks stressed when you get home from school or after checking his cellphone.
- There may be wounds on his body.
The type of child who is likely to become a victim of bullying
Every child has the opportunity to experience bullying from their social environment, Mother. However, quoting from the Very Well Family, some of which have a higher risk are children with the following criteria:
1. The child is successful
Children who succeed at anything may get bullied. Successful children will get a lot of positive attention from friends or adults. This makes other people jealous of their inability or worry about their ability to be overshadowed, so they bully them so that they feel insecure or doubt the child's abilities.
2. The smart kid
A smart, creative child or an assiduous student who does well academically may also be targeted by bullies because they are jealous or can't keep up with them.
3. Introverted child
Children who are introverted, panic-prone, or obedient are more likely than children who are extroverted and assertive. In fact, some researchers believe that children who lack self-confidence and enjoy pleasing others can attract bullies.
Research also shows that children who suffer from depression or stress are more likely to be bullied. Bullies choose them because they are less likely to fight back. Most perpetrators feel themselves strong, so they choose weaker children.
4. Loner
Many victims of bullying tend to have fewer friends than those who don't. They may be rejected by their peers, excluded from social events and spend lunch or rest alone.
5. Popular child
Sometimes bullies target children who are popular or liked because they threaten their popularity or social standing. The bully will try to discredit the victim and make him less likable.
6. Different appearance or defects
Almost any type of physical trait that differs or disabilities can attract the bully's attention, Mother. Victims can be short, thin, fat, glasses, spotty, and other physical characteristics, or have disabilities or special needs.
Often times, this type of bullying is very painful because it can damage the child's self-esteem. Most bullies target their victims for fun by making fun of the flaws.
7. Differences in religion, culture and race
Children may also be bullied simply because of their religious, cultural or racial beliefs. Bullying based on religious and cultural beliefs usually starts from a lack of understanding and tolerance to believe something different.
Following the initial bullying accusations levied against Ji Soo, he has been accused by two separate netizens of bullying and sexual harassment. The first netizen “B” claimed Ji Soo would bully them on the subway and even spotted Ji Soo urinating in his classroom’s trashcan.
When I was in 7th grade, Ji Soo slapped me in the subway. I can’t remember how much he hit me, but I’m sure it was more than once. He hit me again a few days later because I didn’t buy him a drink from McDonald’s. I was shorter than him so I had no choice but to be hit by him. I was very scared of him because he made threats to me, saying he did judo. And then he said he did judo on Knowing Bros, I had such.. mixed feelings.
He would also beat me during our basketball games He lost to someone like me, 150cm tall at the time, in a 2v2 basketball game, and he got so upset so he started to beat me up. Once I scored the final basket, the punches came flying in at me. He was the carnivore, and I was the herbivore.
Remember peeing in the classroom? During 7th grade, I was in class 3 and he was in class 2, and since our classes were so close, it would take under a second for him to come into my classroom. I went to his classroom to see my friend, and I was shocked to see Ji Soo urinating in the trash can. Even more shocking was Ji Soo saying he wouldn’t clean it up.
During 9th grade, Ji Soo was the main perpetrator of countless cases of bullying and abuse. I don’t think the public should like you anymore. I don’t think a violent person like you should be loved by the public after packing up and cleaning up your image. Some people have been abused more than I have, and some people certainly have not overcome what happened to them. This is karma, and I and everyone else who have been writing about your school assault feels the same way.
— Netizen “B”
The second netizen “C” claimed Ji Soo would even make sexually harassing remarks towards his own girlfriend at the time.
I thought it would be a matter of time since a new movement of school assault by celebrities would start spreading on the internet.
Ji Soo was really violent when he was in middle school. I also still remember being hit by the cherry tomatoes thrown by Ji Soo’s bullying group in the cafeteria. Ji Soo would pick on particular people, but he went around the school acting like he was the king, indiscriminately getting into quarrels with students, hitting and cursing them for no reason. I was so afraid of him, so I would always try to avoid him.
One day, I saw Ji Soo making sexual remarks about his girlfriend at the time, and those remarks just crossed the line. I went to the same elementary school as the girl and was friends with her, so I messaged her to be more careful around him, but the next day, Ji Soo came up to me, made a threat, and hit me. At that time, a different person in Ji Soo’s group stopped Ji Soo after hitting me.
When I first saw him on TV after he debuted, I thought he wouldn’t last long, but I was complacent in my thoughts. It was really shocking seeing his face on the first floor of department stores, in Olive Young, in dramas and movies, but most crucially, it was shocking to hear middle school girls in academies talking about him, saying they are his fan.
If I am legally responsible for my posts, I will stand in solidarity with the other victims. If the agency or Ji Soo himself states that these accusations are not true, I will return with more evidence.
— Netizen “C”
In response to the plethora of accusations, Ji Soo’s agency KeyEast simply stated they are still looking into them.
His former classmate from Seorabeol Middle School between 2006-2008, put up an online post as an anonymous user, stating that the actor, being of a "bigger build", would frequently bully the person in question. The post added that Kim Ji Soo made the person feel like an outcast, and indulged in "violence, blackmailing, insults, and abusive language."
Following this, there were two separate claims of the actor sexually assaulting his schoolmate. Another person came forward to allege that Kim was a "womaniser" and had intercourse with a student in the school bathroom.
The actor posted a handwritten note on his Instagram, apologising for his wrongdoings and past behaviour. "I sincerely apologise to the people who suffered because of me. There is no excuse for my past misconduct and they were things that cannot be forgiven," the actor stated.
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